Love Conscious Relationship

Episode 21: How to Avoid and Stop Fights with Your Partner

In this episode, I get real and dive deep into how to avoid and stop fights with your partner, sharing one powerful phrase that can get you out of heated moments fast. Relationships are built on communication, but when things go wrong, misunderstandings can turn small issues into massive problems. I also get a little emotional when sharing a personal story, so be ready for some vulnerability.

If you’ve been searching for ways to reduce conflict, communicate more clearly, or stop the cycle of constant arguments, this episode is for you.

Why You Should Tune In:

• You’re tired of walking on eggshells, afraid to say the wrong thing.

• You’ve experienced fights over things that seem to come out of nowhere.

• You’re ready to learn a new approach that doesn’t involve constant conflict and frustration.

Vulnerability Moment: I share a personal story where I faced my own struggles with communication and how I found a way through it. It’s a raw and real moment that might just hit home for you.

Listen Now to Discover:

• How to avoid future fights by applying these simple, practical tools.

• The phrase that works like a charm to calm tense situations.

• The importance of understanding your partner before jumping into a fight.

This episode is packed with insights and practical advice for anyone looking to create more peace in their relationship. Ready to make a change? Let’s get into it!

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Episode 20: How to Problem Solve Issues: What is Really at Stake

If you're struggling to communicate and want to reboot your relationship without waiting on your partner to change, my 7-Day Relationship Reboot is designed for you. In just a week, you’ll learn simple, effective strategies to reconnect and improve communication—no couples therapy needed. Take the lead in your relationship today and start seeing results.

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In this episode, we dive deep into the conflicts that arise in relationships when personal desires clash with deeper emotional needs. It’s not just about the tie, the trip, or feeling ignored—it’s about what’s truly at stake: connection, respect, and autonomy.

If you’ve ever found yourself in an argument over something small, but it escalated into something bigger, this episode is for you. Learn how to navigate these moments without triggering your partner and discover a three-phase process to problem-solve effectively.

Key Topics Discussed:

• What is Control in Relationships?
  • How subtle behaviors and well-meaning actions can come off as controlling.
  • The difference between influencing and controlling your partner.
• How to Identify When You’re Being Controlling
  • Signs that you may be trying to control the situation without realizing it.
  • Questions to ask yourself to avoid unintentionally stifling your partner’s autonomy.
• The Value of Speaking and Listening Without Jumping to Solutions
  • Why it’s essential to define the problem first before rushing to solve it.
  • Techniques for speaking and listening that foster connection, not conflict.
• The Three Phases of Problem-Solving in Relationships

Episode 19 - The Best Relationship Advice You’ve Never Heard

We’ve all heard the typical relationship advice: “Say I love you every day,” “Never go to bed angry,” and other tips that sound nice but don’t always work. The truth is, many of us didn’t grow up hearing good relationship advice or having strong role models to follow.

In this episode, I share the best relationship advice I’ve ever heard. It all started at a bridal shower, where I overheard some surprising advice that really got me thinking. From there, I dive into why some of the most popular relationship tips fall flat, and what actually makes a lasting difference in building a strong connection.

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Episode Links:

Watch the Backwards Bike video:

https://youtu.be/MFzDaBzBlL0?si=63xoGr6fA62PhblQ

Listen to my episode on time-outs and emotional regulation

https://jessicamyersadams.podbean.com/e/episode-12-being-the-boss-of-your-emotions/

Episode 18: Three Common Causes of Emotional Shutdown

Ever feel like your partner shuts down during important conversations? In this episode, we uncover the three most common causes of emotional shutdown in relationships. Discover how communication breakdown, unresolved stress, and unmet needs could be blocking the connection you crave. If you're tired of hitting a wall and want to create a more open, honest dialogue, this episode is for you!

Tune in to learn how to get your partner to listen without shutting down.

 

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Episode 17: Breaking the Cycle – How to Handle Relationship Challenges and Stay Connected

In this episode, we explore how to break the cycle of frustration and disconnection in relationships, especially when communication feels blocked. If you've ever found yourself replaying past arguments or feeling stuck between wanting connection and needing to protect yourself, this episode is for you.

We’ll dig into the real reason many partners struggle to connect—hint, it’s not just communication issues. Learn how to handle the differences that create emotional distance and prevent deeper intimacy. We'll also cover strategies to manage frustration, anger, and other low-frequency emotions that can disrupt your connection.

Plus, we'll introduce you to a powerful mindset shift: when one person in a relationship struggles, both partners feel the impact. Tune in for actionable tips to break this cycle, elevate your emotional energy, and stay connected—even in tough moments.

Whether you're dealing with relationship challenges, frustration, or communication roadblocks, this episode will give you the tools to navigate it all and build a stronger, more resilient connection.

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Episode 16: Emotional Affairs – Are You Crossing the Line?

Is your partner’s friendship making you uneasy? Or perhaps you’re dealing with a jealous partner who feels threatened by your relationships? In this episode, we dive into the often murky world of emotional affairs. We’ll break down the gray areas of emotional infidelity, offer you clear criteria to help you determine when a friendship has crossed a line, and explore what microcheating (a term that's gaining popularity) really means in today's digital age.

We'll also cover practical strategies to prevent emotional affairs and help you regain trust if you’re worried about your partner’s behavior. Plus, discover how my 7-Day Relationship Reboot can reignite emotional closeness and communication in your relationship, setting the foundation for long-term happiness.

Tune in to learn:

• What exactly qualifies as an emotional affair?

• The 5 criteria that determine if a relationship outside your partnership is inappropriate:

  1. Why the connection exists

  2. Whether attraction is present

  3. How much it interferes with your current relationship

  4. Who your priority is

  5. If secrets are being kept

If you're ready to prevent emotional infidelity and protect the health of your relationship, don’t miss this episode. Learn the principles to build a happy relationship, strengthen your communication, and safeguard your emotional connection.

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Episode 15: Can Men and Women Be Friends?

Episode Overview:

In today’s episode, we dive into a hotly debated topic: Can men and women be friends? 

With strong opinions on both sides, we explore what research says and offer insights from my own experience. 

After addressing some recent conversations and reflecting on my own expertise, I’ll lay out the five criteria you should consider before starting a new friendship with someone of the opposite sex or someone of the sex you're currently with.

Key Discussion Points:

• Introduction: Why I decided to tackle the question of whether men and women can be friends, and the significance of this topic in the context of emotional affairs.
• Research Overview:
  • NPR Story: A viral video from Utah State University where students weigh in on whether men and women can be friends. The video shows a common public perspective where men are skeptical, and women are optimistic. 
  • Dr. April Bleski's Study: Examines opposite-sex friendships through an evolutionary lens, revealing that while men might see potential romantic benefits, women often value these friendships for protection and advice.
  • Scientific American Study by Adrian Ward: Finds that men often feel more attraction towards female friends, while women typically do not. This disparity can lead to complications in these friendships.
  • Alternative Viewpoints: Some argue that cultural stereotypes and media portrayals skew perceptions, and that meaningful, platonic friendships between men and women are indeed possible. 

Expert Opinion: My take on the research and the practical implications for those in or seeking relationships. I discuss how the CoupleSpeak process can help in understanding and managing opposite-sex friendships.

• Five Criteria for Opposite-Sex Friendships:

• • Motivation for Friendship: Is the interest mutual? Does it align with your partner’s feelings? Is there a clear, respectful boundary in professional or social settings?
  • Attraction: Is there ongoing romantic or physical attraction? How does it impact your current relationship?
  • Impact on Relationship: Does the friendship interfere with your primary relationship?
  • Priorities: Who comes first in your life—your partner or your friend?
  • Secrecy: Are there any aspects of this friendship that are kept hidden from your partner?

Conclusion: Reflecting on the research and my experience, I encourage you to consider these criteria thoughtfully. Understanding the dynamics of opposite-sex friendships can help maintain healthy relationships and navigate potential pitfalls.

Links:

• NPR Story on opposite-sex friendships: Listen here 
• Viral YouTube video from Utah State University: Watch here

Tune in to hear the full discussion and gain insights that could help you navigate friendships and relationships more effectively!

 

Episode 14: Taking Charge of Your Nervous System with YI Martins

In this episode, we're diving deep into how you can take control of your nervous system and start responding to life’s challenges with greater awareness and intention. Jessica sits down with the insightful YI Martins to explore practical strategies for recognizing and understanding your own responses, making empowered choices, and using tools like crystals and other props to support your self-soothing journey.

YI Martins also shares her personal approach to embodying movement—revealing how this practice can transform the way you handle stress and cultivate inner calm. Whether you're new to this concept or looking to deepen your existing practice, this episode is
packed with actionable advice and inspiring insights.

Curious about how to better navigate your nervous system and enhance your emotional resilience? Tune in to discover the steps you can take today to start feeling more in control and at ease in your everyday life.

Don’t miss this empowering conversation!

 

Episode 9- "Discover your why" -https://youtube.com/@yizhaomartinslmft5631?si=oA-UsiqW20dSIJXn https://www.podbean.com/eas/pb-s3qes-166a73f

 

Yi Martins

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https://youtube.com/@yizhaomartinslmft5631?si=oA-UsiqW20dSIJXn

Website:
https://www.yizhaomartins.com/