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Welcome! I’m Jessica, a couples therapist and relationship coach with over 10 years of experience helping couples navigate relationship challenges. In this podcast, we focus on building stronger, more loving connections by tackling common issues like communication struggles, trust problems, loneliness, and the need for appreciation, intimacy, and connection. We dive deep into the world of love consciousness and its link to spirituality, exploring practical ways to connect with your higher power through meditation and self-help techniques. Each episode sheds light on barriers to love consciousness—such as past trauma and internal struggles—that make forgiveness and love challenging. My goal is to encourage you to become a relationship visionary, someone who sees their relationship as a higher purpose and strives to ensure both partners feel valued and connected. I discuss overcoming challenges and creating a relationship where both partners are respected and understood. Join me on this transformative journey to better relationships. Let’s work together to cultivate love and connection in your life. Subscribe now and start your path to a more conscious and loving relationship.
Episodes
Friday Dec 06, 2024
Friday Dec 06, 2024
Does your partner avoid emotional conversations or seem to shut down when things get tough? If you’re navigating a relationship where your partner has avoidant tendencies, it can feel like a roadblock to creating the closeness you want. This episode unpacks how attachment styles affect relationships and provides insights into what you can do to improve communication and connection.
We’ll cover:
- What to Do When Your Partner Shuts Down: Creating Closeness with an Avoidant Partner
- Why some partners struggle to talk about emotions and what avoidant tendencies look like in relationships.
- How attachment impacts your partner’s behavior and your emotional connection.
- What you can do to create closeness and help your partner feel safe in conversations.
- Practical strategies to improve communication with a partner who withdraws or avoids feelings.
If you’re tired of feeling disconnected or frustrated by a partner who doesn’t talk about emotions, this episode is packed with tools to help you navigate these challenges and strengthen your bond.
Resources:
- Leave the comment “TIP” and I will send you my 10 Tips for Dealing with Avoidant Attachment.
- Curious about Mary Ainsworth’s Strange Situation? Watch this detailed explainer video: https://youtu.be/USr9o5uCctQ
Call to Action:
Want 10 tips to deal with an avoidant partner? Dope the comment “tip” in comments section and I will send it to you
Share this with someone who might need support in their relationship, and don’t forget to subscribe for more tips on building stronger, more connected partnerships!
Thursday Nov 28, 2024
Thursday Nov 28, 2024
Do you feel like your relationship isn’t cutting it? Maybe you’re wishing your partner would notice you more, say thank you, or just appreciate everything you do. If you’ve caught yourself thinking, “Why can’t they see all that I give?” or “I just want to feel valued,” this episode is for you.
What if I told you that gratitude—yes, gratitude—could be the secret to getting more of the appreciation you crave? In this episode, I’ll show you how gratitude isn’t just a feel-good exercise for the holidays; it’s a practical tool to shift your perspective, strengthen your connection, and change the dynamics of your relationship.
Plus, I’ll share what I learned about gratitude from my trip to Africa and how a powerful resentment correction exercise transformed my own relationships. You don’t need to wait for your partner to change—this is something you can start today.
Key Takeaways:
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How gratitude can create a ripple effect of appreciation in your relationship
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Why focusing on what’s right can help reduce conflict and resentment
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Simple, actionable ways to practice gratitude and inspire connection
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Stories and insights to show how gratitude changes everything
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Episode 11: Overcoming Negativity: I also share what My Trip to Africa Taught Me About Gratitude
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Episode 13: Master Your Mind and Emotions: The Resentment Correction Exercise That Saved My Relationships
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Explore the 7-Day Relationship Reboot: Transform your relationship in just a week with daily, actionable steps
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Friday Nov 22, 2024
Friday Nov 22, 2024
Do you feel like your partner isn’t listening? Are you frustrated because every conversation seems to lead to the same arguments or no resolution at all? In this episode, I share two powerful, science-backed shifts that can help you break out of the cycle of frustration, reduce stress in your relationship, and create a stronger connection with your partner—even if it feels like nothing has worked before.
What You’ll Learn:
- How positive psychology can help you refocus when your partner doesn’t respond the way you hoped.
- Why neutral thinking is a game-changer when you’re feeling stuck or overwhelmed by relationship stress.
- Steps to move past frustration and start rebuilding communication and trust.
If you’re ready to take action, these shifts are your first step. Plus, my 7-Day Relationship Reboot is a guaranteed way to create progress in less than a week. If you’re tired of feeling unheard and disconnected, this mini-course—still priced less than a night out for pizza—will help you restart your relationship and create more positive connections right away.
Get started now at couplesspeak.com/reboot
Don’t let stress or frustration keep you stuck. Take control, make these shifts, and see how small changes can make a big difference!
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Friday Nov 15, 2024
Friday Nov 15, 2024
Do you struggle with fights that stretch over hours or days, leaving your relationship stuck in silence? In this episode, we explore a fast-track approach to reconnecting with your partner post-conflict.
Learn the steps to make peace without needing an apology and why reaching out first (even when it’s tough) can be transformative. I break down why fights happen, from unmet needs for respect, trust, and control, to practical steps you can take to get back on track.
Key Takeaways:
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Recognizing common reasons for fights, including power dynamics, trust, and respect
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How to break the silent treatment with small gestures of connection
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Practical steps for cooling down, evaluating your thoughts, and making the first move toward reconnection
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Why sometimes unresolved issues are okay, and how a bit of patience can actually help
Resources:
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Download the guide: How to Reconnect After a Fight – a quick-reference tool for re-engaging after an argument
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Explore the 7-Day Relationship Reboot – transform your relationship in just a week, with easy daily steps
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Friday Nov 08, 2024
Friday Nov 08, 2024
In this episode, we explore the role resentment plays in blocking our motivation to change—and how we can transform it into a powerful force for growth. If you’re finding yourself feeling stuck, waiting for your partner to change, or struggling to get out of the cycle of frustration, this episode offers insights and actionable strategies.
We'll discuss what resentment truly is and why it surfaces in relationships, especially when you feel unheard or treated unfairly. And if your partner’s behavior is stuck on repeat, this episode will help you stop waiting and start building the change you want to see.
In This Episode:
Understanding Resentment
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What resentment is: a natural response that appears when we feel wronged or deprived of what we believe we deserve.
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How resentment can act as both a motivator and a barrier, prompting us to act while also potentially keeping us stuck if not channeled properly.
Resentment as a Call to Action
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Why resentment isn’t just a passive feeling; it’s an emotional signal that often drives us to “level the playing field” or push back. We’ll explore how to make sure this drive supports positive change rather than creating more conflict.
The Dual Nature of Resentment
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Resentment isn’t inherently negative—it signals that we want a shift in our relationship or environment. But holding onto it too long can lead to stagnation, making change feel impossible.
Resentment as a Block to Behavior Change
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When we hold onto resentment, it often makes us feel that our efforts to change are pointless, especially if we’re waiting for someone else to act first. This episode will explore how this mindset can lead to a cycle of feeling justified in staying the same, even when it harms us.
4 Key Motivation Blockers and Their Escape Routes:
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Resentment
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Resentment keeps us focused on others’ actions, often blinding us to our own power to change.
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Hopelessness
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Feeling that things will never change can make us give up before we even try.
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Lack of Steps/Know-How
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Not knowing where to begin can make change feel overwhelming and impossible.
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Fear
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Fear of failure or the unknown often holds us back from even starting.
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Curious about starting your own journey of change?
Check out the Relationship Reboot: A Quick Start Guide if you're open to the possibility of possibly changing. This episode will walk you through how to get past each motivation blocker and create the momentum for real, lasting growth.
Friday Nov 01, 2024
Friday Nov 01, 2024
Ever been left with an “I’m sorry” that feels hollow?
Sometimes, a quick apology doesn’t really address the hurt, leaving you feeling even more disconnected. I
n this episode, we’ll explore why your communication might be missing the mark—and how you can hit a bullseye to reach a better understanding. I’ll share insights on expressing yourself in ways that move past your partner’s avoidance, helping you connect rather than clash.
If you’re dealing with a partner who tends to shut down or you’re struggling with your own reactions, episode 13 is a must-listen for managing those tough conversations with calm and clarity. In this episode, I also share real examples, including my own lesson in working as a team through challenging moments.
Looking to strengthen your communication skills? Check out our 7 Day Relationship Reboot for a step-by-step guide to help you connect more deeply and minimize the need for apologies altogether.
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Friday Oct 25, 2024
Friday Oct 25, 2024
In this episode, we address the two biggest issues couples face when it comes to relationship repair—doing nothing and not knowing what to do. I’ll share the good news and the bad news.
The bad?
If you don’t address these issues, your relationship could suffer irreparable damage.
The good? I’ll provide practical guidance to help you take the first step.
Using real-life examples from breakthrough sessions, we explore the consequences of inaction, the power of resistance, and the mindset needed to overcome blame and take positive action. I’ll share the Rusty Bike Analogy to highlight the importance of maintenance in relationships and why waiting for problems to fix themselves only worsens the situation.
If you're unsure about where to start, don't worry. I’ll guide you through the initial steps to turn things around, and I’ve even created a downloadable guide to help you warm up the relationship, just like preparing for a run. Tune in for practical tips and avoid the dangers of staying stuck!
Here's my quick-start guide— ‘The 7-Day Relationship Reboot’—guaranteed to help you make real changes in less than a week. Grab it and start transforming your relationship today.
https://couplesspeak.com/relationship-reboot/
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Friday Oct 18, 2024
Friday Oct 18, 2024