Love Conscious Relationship

Episode 18: Three Common Causes of Emotional Shutdown

Ever feel like your partner shuts down during important conversations? In this episode, we uncover the three most common causes of emotional shutdown in relationships. Discover how communication breakdown, unresolved stress, and unmet needs could be blocking the connection you crave. If you're tired of hitting a wall and want to create a more open, honest dialogue, this episode is for you!

Tune in to learn how to get your partner to listen without shutting down.

 

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Episode 17: Breaking the Cycle – How to Handle Relationship Challenges and Stay Connected

In this episode, we explore how to break the cycle of frustration and disconnection in relationships, especially when communication feels blocked. If you've ever found yourself replaying past arguments or feeling stuck between wanting connection and needing to protect yourself, this episode is for you.

We’ll dig into the real reason many partners struggle to connect—hint, it’s not just communication issues. Learn how to handle the differences that create emotional distance and prevent deeper intimacy. We'll also cover strategies to manage frustration, anger, and other low-frequency emotions that can disrupt your connection.

Plus, we'll introduce you to a powerful mindset shift: when one person in a relationship struggles, both partners feel the impact. Tune in for actionable tips to break this cycle, elevate your emotional energy, and stay connected—even in tough moments.

Whether you're dealing with relationship challenges, frustration, or communication roadblocks, this episode will give you the tools to navigate it all and build a stronger, more resilient connection.

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Episode 16: Emotional Affairs – Are You Crossing the Line?

Is your partner’s friendship making you uneasy? Or perhaps you’re dealing with a jealous partner who feels threatened by your relationships? In this episode, we dive into the often murky world of emotional affairs. We’ll break down the gray areas of emotional infidelity, offer you clear criteria to help you determine when a friendship has crossed a line, and explore what microcheating (a term that's gaining popularity) really means in today's digital age.

We'll also cover practical strategies to prevent emotional affairs and help you regain trust if you’re worried about your partner’s behavior. Plus, discover how my 7-Day Relationship Reboot can reignite emotional closeness and communication in your relationship, setting the foundation for long-term happiness.

Tune in to learn:

• What exactly qualifies as an emotional affair?

• The 5 criteria that determine if a relationship outside your partnership is inappropriate:

  1. Why the connection exists

  2. Whether attraction is present

  3. How much it interferes with your current relationship

  4. Who your priority is

  5. If secrets are being kept

If you're ready to prevent emotional infidelity and protect the health of your relationship, don’t miss this episode. Learn the principles to build a happy relationship, strengthen your communication, and safeguard your emotional connection.

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Episode 15: Can Men and Women Be Friends?

Episode Overview:

In today’s episode, we dive into a hotly debated topic: Can men and women be friends? 

With strong opinions on both sides, we explore what research says and offer insights from my own experience. 

After addressing some recent conversations and reflecting on my own expertise, I’ll lay out the five criteria you should consider before starting a new friendship with someone of the opposite sex or someone of the sex you're currently with.

Key Discussion Points:

• Introduction: Why I decided to tackle the question of whether men and women can be friends, and the significance of this topic in the context of emotional affairs.
• Research Overview:
  • NPR Story: A viral video from Utah State University where students weigh in on whether men and women can be friends. The video shows a common public perspective where men are skeptical, and women are optimistic. 
  • Dr. April Bleski's Study: Examines opposite-sex friendships through an evolutionary lens, revealing that while men might see potential romantic benefits, women often value these friendships for protection and advice.
  • Scientific American Study by Adrian Ward: Finds that men often feel more attraction towards female friends, while women typically do not. This disparity can lead to complications in these friendships.
  • Alternative Viewpoints: Some argue that cultural stereotypes and media portrayals skew perceptions, and that meaningful, platonic friendships between men and women are indeed possible. 

Expert Opinion: My take on the research and the practical implications for those in or seeking relationships. I discuss how the CoupleSpeak process can help in understanding and managing opposite-sex friendships.

• Five Criteria for Opposite-Sex Friendships:

• • Motivation for Friendship: Is the interest mutual? Does it align with your partner’s feelings? Is there a clear, respectful boundary in professional or social settings?
  • Attraction: Is there ongoing romantic or physical attraction? How does it impact your current relationship?
  • Impact on Relationship: Does the friendship interfere with your primary relationship?
  • Priorities: Who comes first in your life—your partner or your friend?
  • Secrecy: Are there any aspects of this friendship that are kept hidden from your partner?

Conclusion: Reflecting on the research and my experience, I encourage you to consider these criteria thoughtfully. Understanding the dynamics of opposite-sex friendships can help maintain healthy relationships and navigate potential pitfalls.

Links:

• NPR Story on opposite-sex friendships: Listen here 
• Viral YouTube video from Utah State University: Watch here

Tune in to hear the full discussion and gain insights that could help you navigate friendships and relationships more effectively!

 

Episode 14: Taking Charge of Your Nervous System with YI Martins

In this episode, we're diving deep into how you can take control of your nervous system and start responding to life’s challenges with greater awareness and intention. Jessica sits down with the insightful YI Martins to explore practical strategies for recognizing and understanding your own responses, making empowered choices, and using tools like crystals and other props to support your self-soothing journey.

YI Martins also shares her personal approach to embodying movement—revealing how this practice can transform the way you handle stress and cultivate inner calm. Whether you're new to this concept or looking to deepen your existing practice, this episode is
packed with actionable advice and inspiring insights.

Curious about how to better navigate your nervous system and enhance your emotional resilience? Tune in to discover the steps you can take today to start feeling more in control and at ease in your everyday life.

Don’t miss this empowering conversation!

 

Episode 9- "Discover your why" -https://youtube.com/@yizhaomartinslmft5631?si=oA-UsiqW20dSIJXn https://www.podbean.com/eas/pb-s3qes-166a73f

 

Yi Martins

Youtube:
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Website:
https://www.yizhaomartins.com/

Episode 13 Master Your Mind and Emotions For Your Relationship

In this episode, I explore emotional sobriety, sharing powerful techniques that have helped me shift my mood and manage emotions more effectively. Reflecting on my journey that began in 2003, I discuss the importance of thinking beyond oneself and how breathwork can transform your emotional state. I also cover methods for self-regulation in relationships, managing resentments, and calming the mind through focused breathing. Additionally, I offer a glimpse into different ways to self-regulate, highlighting the connection between movement, dance, and emotional balance.

Links Mentioned in This Episode:

• Instant Healing [to Release Resentments]
• Follow Jessica on Instagram and comment “podcast follower” for a free day of the 7-Day Reboot program.

Call to Action: If you enjoyed this episode, make sure to subscribe and check out Episode 12, where I discuss the beginnings of emotional clearing. 

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Episode 12: Being the Boss of Your Emotions

In this episode, we're diving into a crucial aspect of personal growth—becoming the boss of your emotions. We'll explore how to stay in control when conflicts arise in your relationship, so you're not letting emotions take the wheel.

If you've ever felt overwhelmed or lost your cool during a disagreement, this episode is for you. We'll talk about how our brains react when we're emotionally charged, why it feels like we're in danger even when we're not, and the impact this has on our ability to think clearly.

You'll learn about practical strategies like taking a time-out and understanding the science behind why our emotions can sometimes get the best of us.

 Plus, we'll discuss the importance of having a strong "why"—a reason to commit to managing your emotions better.

This isn't just about keeping calm; it's about taking charge and making meaningful changes in how you connect with your partner. Whether you're an action taker or just curious about how to improve your relationship, this episode will give you the tools to start controlling your emotions instead of letting them control you.

Don't miss out on the conversation—tune in and discover how to become the visionary in your relationship, focusing on solutions and building a stronger connection with your partner.

 

Connect with Jessica:

• Follow Jessica on Instagram
• Subscribe to the podcast
• 30-Minute Breakthrough Call
• Timeout and the START Framework

 

Listener Engagement:

• If you found this episode helpful, please share it with someone who might benefit from it send them a link 

Episode 11: Podcast Episode Notes: Overcoming Negativity – How to Communicate with Your Partner

In this episode, I'm diving into one of the biggest challenges many of us face in relationships: communicating frustrations without causing our partner to shut down. We've all been there—feeling unheard, unappreciated, or even misunderstood—but there's a way to express your desires and share what’s on your mind without bringing negativity into the conversation.

I'll be sharing some tried-and-true secrets to opening up these difficult conversations while keeping things constructive. Whether you're dealing with a partner who doesn't always see eye-to-eye with you or trying to reduce conflict without coming off as critical, this episode is packed with insights that can make all the difference.

Recently, I returned from an incredible trip to Kenya, Africa, where I joined 16 other therapists to launch a groundbreaking communication protocol as a pilot in a local school. This experience not only reinforced the importance of clear, compassionate communication but also provided some fresh perspectives that I'm excited to share with you.

Tune in to learn how you can:

• Express your frustrations in a way that encourages understanding and connection, not conflict.
• Communicate your desires without sounding negative or demanding.
• Gain more appreciation and support from your partner by using language that fosters cooperation rather than defensiveness.
• Discover simple, effective strategies to transform the way you talk about sensitive issues, making your relationship stronger and more fulfilling.

If you're tired of feeling like your conversations aren't going anywhere, or if you're looking for ways to bring more positivity and appreciation into your relationship, this episode is for you. It's time to stop the cycle of negativity and start communicating in a way that truly resonates with both you and your partner.

You'll walk away with practical relationship tips and advice that can make a real impact, helping you improve communication and deepen your connection with your partner. Whether you're searching for ways to enhance your couples communication or just want to increase appreciation in your relationship, this episode will provide you with the tools to do just that.

In this special episode, Jessica shares a powerful keynote speech she did
on the unique opportunity that you have to change your relationship and the gift of personal growth. This talk offers a deep dive into what it truly takes to make your relationship work and how you can improve you relationship. Learn how to transform conflicts about communication styles into the ability to handle any situation with respect and understanding.

Tune in to this episode to gain valuable insights and actionable steps that will help you take your relationship to the next level.

Resources and Links Mentioned:

• Follow Jessica on Instagram
• 30-Minute Breakthrough Call 
• Subscribe to the podcast for more practical tips, heartfelt conversations, and expert advice on improving your relationship.
• Reach out to us for support and to discuss your specific relationship challenges.
• Backwards bicycle:   https://youtu.be/MFzDaBzBlL0?si=Icq7mAwkSvPSxw4l