Love Conscious Relationship

Episode 26: How to Re-Engage After a Fight – Stop the Silent Treatment

Do you struggle with fights that stretch over hours or days, leaving your relationship stuck in silence? In this episode, we explore a fast-track approach to reconnecting with your partner post-conflict.

Learn the steps to make peace without needing an apology and why reaching out first (even when it’s tough) can be transformative. I break down why fights happen, from unmet needs for respect, trust, and control, to practical steps you can take to get back on track.

Key Takeaways:

• Recognizing common reasons for fights, including power dynamics, trust, and respect

• How to break the silent treatment with small gestures of connection

• Practical steps for cooling down, evaluating your thoughts, and making the first move toward reconnection

• Why sometimes unresolved issues are okay, and how a bit of patience can actually help

Resources:

• Download the guide: How to Reconnect After a Fight – a quick-reference tool for re-engaging after an argument

• Explore the 7-Day Relationship Reboot – transform your relationship in just a week, with easy daily steps

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Episode 25: Resentful—Why Change? The Truth About Motivation

In this episode, we explore the role resentment plays in blocking our motivation to change—and how we can transform it into a powerful force for growth. If you’re finding yourself feeling stuck, waiting for your partner to change, or struggling to get out of the cycle of frustration, this episode offers insights and actionable strategies.

We'll discuss what resentment truly is and why it surfaces in relationships, especially when you feel unheard or treated unfairly. And if your partner’s behavior is stuck on repeat, this episode will help you stop waiting and start building the change you want to see.

In This Episode:

Understanding Resentment

• What resentment is: a natural response that appears when we feel wronged or deprived of what we believe we deserve.

• How resentment can act as both a motivator and a barrier, prompting us to act while also potentially keeping us stuck if not channeled properly.

Resentment as a Call to Action

• Why resentment isn’t just a passive feeling; it’s an emotional signal that often drives us to “level the playing field” or push back. We’ll explore how to make sure this drive supports positive change rather than creating more conflict.

The Dual Nature of Resentment

• Resentment isn’t inherently negative—it signals that we want a shift in our relationship or environment. But holding onto it too long can lead to stagnation, making change feel impossible.

Resentment as a Block to Behavior Change

• When we hold onto resentment, it often makes us feel that our efforts to change are pointless, especially if we’re waiting for someone else to act first. This episode will explore how this mindset can lead to a cycle of feeling justified in staying the same, even when it harms us.

 

4 Key Motivation Blockers and Their Escape Routes:

1. Resentment

   • Resentment keeps us focused on others’ actions, often blinding us to our own power to change.

2. Hopelessness

   • Feeling that things will never change can make us give up before we even try.

3. Lack of Steps/Know-How

   • Not knowing where to begin can make change feel overwhelming and impossible.

4. Fear

   • Fear of failure or the unknown often holds us back from even starting.

 

Curious about starting your own journey of change?
Check out the Relationship Reboot: A Quick Start Guide if you're open to the possibility of possibly changing. This episode will walk you through how to get past each motivation blocker and create the momentum for real, lasting growth.

Episode 24: How to Get an Apology from Your Partner

Ever been left with an “I’m sorry” that feels hollow?

Sometimes, a quick apology doesn’t really address the hurt, leaving you feeling even more disconnected. I

n this episode, we’ll explore why your communication might be missing the mark—and how you can hit a bullseye to reach a better understanding. I’ll share insights on expressing yourself in ways that move past your partner’s avoidance, helping you connect rather than clash.

If you’re dealing with a partner who tends to shut down or you’re struggling with your own reactions, episode 13 is a must-listen for managing those tough conversations with calm and clarity. In this episode, I also share real examples, including my own lesson in working as a team through challenging moments.

Looking to strengthen your communication skills? Check out our 7 Day Relationship Reboot for a step-by-step guide to help you connect more deeply and minimize the need for apologies altogether.

 

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Episode 23: "First Steps vs. Inaction: The Hidden Dangers of Waiting Too Long to Repair Your Relationship"

In this episode, we address the two biggest issues couples face when it comes to relationship repair—doing nothing and not knowing what to do. I’ll share the good news and the bad news.

The bad?

If you don’t address these issues, your relationship could suffer irreparable damage.

The good? I’ll provide practical guidance to help you take the first step.

Using real-life examples from breakthrough sessions, we explore the consequences of inaction, the power of resistance, and the mindset needed to overcome blame and take positive action. I’ll share the Rusty Bike Analogy to highlight the importance of maintenance in relationships and why waiting for problems to fix themselves only worsens the situation.

If you're unsure about where to start, don't worry. I’ll guide you through the initial steps to turn things around, and I’ve even created a downloadable guide to help you warm up the relationship, just like preparing for a run. Tune in for practical tips and avoid the dangers of staying stuck!

 

Here's my quick-start guide— ‘The 7-Day Relationship Reboot’—guaranteed to help you make real changes in less than a week.  Grab it and start transforming your relationship today.

 

https://couplesspeak.com/relationship-reboot/

 

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Episode 22: How to Set Boundaries That Stop Fights and Improve Communication

Wondering how to stop fighting with your partner or set boundaries that actually help communication instead of causing more tension?

 In this episode, we’re diving into how to use boundaries in a way that strengthens your relationship, reduces conflict, and helps you feel more connected. 

 

Here's my quick-start guide—‘The 7-Day Relationship Reboot’—guaranteed to help you make real changes in less than a week.  Grab it and start transforming your relationship today.

 

https://couplesspeak.com/relationship-reboot/

Episode 21: How to Avoid and Stop Fights with Your Partner

In this episode, I get real and dive deep into how to avoid and stop fights with your partner, sharing one powerful phrase that can get you out of heated moments fast. Relationships are built on communication, but when things go wrong, misunderstandings can turn small issues into massive problems. I also get a little emotional when sharing a personal story, so be ready for some vulnerability.

If you’ve been searching for ways to reduce conflict, communicate more clearly, or stop the cycle of constant arguments, this episode is for you.

Why You Should Tune In:

• You’re tired of walking on eggshells, afraid to say the wrong thing.

• You’ve experienced fights over things that seem to come out of nowhere.

• You’re ready to learn a new approach that doesn’t involve constant conflict and frustration.

Vulnerability Moment: I share a personal story where I faced my own struggles with communication and how I found a way through it. It’s a raw and real moment that might just hit home for you.

Listen Now to Discover:

• How to avoid future fights by applying these simple, practical tools.

• The phrase that works like a charm to calm tense situations.

• The importance of understanding your partner before jumping into a fight.

This episode is packed with insights and practical advice for anyone looking to create more peace in their relationship. Ready to make a change? Let’s get into it!

Relationship Reboot: https://couplesspeak.com/relationship-reboot/

Episode 20: How to Problem Solve Issues: What is Really at Stake

If you're struggling to communicate and want to reboot your relationship without waiting on your partner to change, my 7-Day Relationship Reboot is designed for you. In just a week, you’ll learn simple, effective strategies to reconnect and improve communication—no couples therapy needed. Take the lead in your relationship today and start seeing results.

https://couplesspeak.com/relationship-reboot/

 

In this episode, we dive deep into the conflicts that arise in relationships when personal desires clash with deeper emotional needs. It’s not just about the tie, the trip, or feeling ignored—it’s about what’s truly at stake: connection, respect, and autonomy.

If you’ve ever found yourself in an argument over something small, but it escalated into something bigger, this episode is for you. Learn how to navigate these moments without triggering your partner and discover a three-phase process to problem-solve effectively.

Key Topics Discussed:

• What is Control in Relationships?
  • How subtle behaviors and well-meaning actions can come off as controlling.
  • The difference between influencing and controlling your partner.
• How to Identify When You’re Being Controlling
  • Signs that you may be trying to control the situation without realizing it.
  • Questions to ask yourself to avoid unintentionally stifling your partner’s autonomy.
• The Value of Speaking and Listening Without Jumping to Solutions
  • Why it’s essential to define the problem first before rushing to solve it.
  • Techniques for speaking and listening that foster connection, not conflict.
• The Three Phases of Problem-Solving in Relationships

Episode 19 - The Best Relationship Advice You’ve Never Heard

We’ve all heard the typical relationship advice: “Say I love you every day,” “Never go to bed angry,” and other tips that sound nice but don’t always work. The truth is, many of us didn’t grow up hearing good relationship advice or having strong role models to follow.

In this episode, I share the best relationship advice I’ve ever heard. It all started at a bridal shower, where I overheard some surprising advice that really got me thinking. From there, I dive into why some of the most popular relationship tips fall flat, and what actually makes a lasting difference in building a strong connection.

Want to know how to restart positivity in your relationship? Do it in less than 7 days with my limited-time offer Relationship Breakthrough https://couplesspeak.com/relationship-reboot/.

Results guaranteed.

 

Episode Links:

Watch the Backwards Bike video:

https://youtu.be/MFzDaBzBlL0?si=63xoGr6fA62PhblQ

Listen to my episode on time-outs and emotional regulation

https://jessicamyersadams.podbean.com/e/episode-12-being-the-boss-of-your-emotions/